Hey love,

Is anyone else feeling the heaviness? The heaviness of pain and fear and uncertainty and anger and all those feels?

Are you trying to ignore those feelings?  Are you giving into them and acting out?  Are you wallowing in them and finding evidence to support how shitty things are (you won’t have to look hard right now)?  Are you taking on EVERYONE’s heaviness as your own (or in addition to)?

If you are like me and feeling all these feels and want to know what to do with them, here is what you can do:

Really check in with yourself.

I am going to give you some check in questions to help you maneuver through these feelings.  You can either save these questions for later, when you are hiding in your closet or taking a bubble bath, or now, wherever you may be, trying to gear yourself up for interaction with other humans.

Ask yourself these questions and then give yourself space and time to really answer them.

Take a couple of deep breaths first:

1. Where in your body do you feel heaviness or tightness?  Can you breathe into that space?
2. What specifically is weighing you down?
3. Is there anything you can eliminate to help with the heaviness?
4. What do you feel hopeful about?
5. What do you want or need to have more time for?
6. Is there something you need to do that you have been avoiding?  Consider why you have been avoiding it.
7. What is one thing you can do for yourself today?

As you move through these questions (or even just one or two of them) know this: it is ok for you to take a break, tune in and spend time loving on yourself.

Mother Theresa once said, ” If you want to change the world, go home and love your family”.  I am going to add to it:

If you want to change the world, start by loving yourself, and then go home and love your family.  

Many times pain, suffering, anger and violence stems from not feeling loved.  From not feeling worthy.

The best gift we can give the world is the gift of self love.

I love you and am so grateful for this community of women.  I am using this time away from all media to really love on my family, to pour love into the ranch we are building to host you, and to tune into what my body needs and is saying.

Although there is much anger and pain in the world right now, there is also much love and I am tuning into that fountain of love.  Especially as I work on the ranch, I don’t want to be consumed by the heaviness or hurtfulness of anger- I want to be sure the energy I am carrying is open, accepting, compassionate and loving as I pour it into each offering of sweat and work.

For this reason and more…

I also have to be honest with you- I am not sure when or if I will return to social media.  I’m looking at options to outsource my media pages (with my content, just someone else managing it) as I do realize that as a business it is necessary, but as a human it may not be.

Maybe you too could consider the time you spend on social media, also consider how you feel when you are in it and when you get off it.  Consider how much you itch to jump on and scroll during every non busy moment you have, and the number of minutes you might save to actually be present in your real life that is happening right now.  If you are using social media as an escape, I invite you to read or paint or draw or write or sing or dance or create instead.  Or maybe, to tune in and ask yourself how you are feeling instead?

The average person spends at least 144 minutes a day on social media.  That is almost 17 hours a week, and almost 512 hours a month!  How else could you use that time?

I am still here for you.  You can email me anytime and I am just a phone call or text away.  I can’t wait to hug you (air or real) at the ranch.  Or at the beach.

PS- since getting off all media I have been gifted so much energy and creativity and I have been pouring it, not just into the ranch, but in creating new content, including season three of my podcast which launched today! The new season includes a new team of awesomeness!  These ladies have been such a light!  Come check it out!