This week on the Happy Hour Podcast, SEASON TWO (whoohooo!)- Dee and I go back to our roots by chatting with each other rather than having a guest on the show.
The topic we are digging into this week is scary and taboo for many, but essential for living your best life. We are talking money, honey — exploring our complicated histories with it and sharing why we are firm believers in the age-old adage “you get what you give.”
Dee and I both have complicated histories with money. Growing up, my family didn’t have much of it. There were times my parents didn’t have a car, and times when we needed to live with other family members. I would dig into our neighbors trash cans to find soda bottles to sell so that I could buy junk I didn’t need, and I got made fun of in school because of my hand-me-downs. Because of this, I became very focused on the things I did not have. The funny thing is, when I got my first job at the age of 15, I wasn’t as excited about being able to eat as I was about being able to buy the things that I felt would make me accepted in society. My relationship with money became extremely unhealthy.
Dee’s history with money was a little different. Priding herself on being an independent woman, she got her first job at the age of 13 and told herself she would never take handouts from anyone. She paid for her first car on her own and looked down on peers who were gifted expensive possessions. Because of this, her money became a source of pride for her.
I’d like to think that today, our relationship with money is much healthier.
Here are three pieces of advice that we have learned over the years regarding shifting your mindset and making more money:
Be open to receive:
Your expectations create your experience, so you must be open to receiving abundance in order to get it. Dee said that after she decided that money would flow to her in abundance she literally started receiving unexpected checks in the mail (more on that on the podcast!), and the same happened for me- I now get lots of gifts in the mail (ps if you want to send me something, I am open to receive it!). When you have unlimited expectations regarding sources of income, you will find more opportunities opening themselves up to you.
You get what you give:
I’m sure you have heard the saying “you have to give love to get love.” Well, the same is true for our finances. When you are seeking money with a closed fist it’s a lot harder to receive the blessing you would otherwise find. Giving can be scary, especially when you feel you are at a place of lack yourself, but I firmly believe money needs to flow out of us in order to come back to us. It’s part of the flow of energy. Trust me when I say that no one becomes poor from giving.
You must wish others well:
Everybody loves to root for the underdog, but when that underdog becomes successful everybody wants to tear that person down. Somewhere along the line, our focus has shifted from supporting the underdog to tearing down the top dog. This is an unhealthy mindset that’s based in this idea that having a lot of money is somehow inherently evil. Sure, there are people at the top, and at the bottom, who make terrible decisions with their money, but if you always view someone else’s gain as your loss you are actually more often than not- blocking your own blessing from manifesting. Rather than tearing others down, we should wish others well and want all people to be blessed with plenty.
Are you ready to change your mindset and make more money? Check out this awesome book I just finished – for the 2nd time- How to be a badass at making money by Jen Sincero- LIFE CHANGING. And listen to the whole podcast below.
