Today I want to have a little heart-to-heart about something I’ve been chewing on lately: the idea of tying your worth to intentions and confidence to our results. Now, if you’re anything like me, you’ve probably fallen into the trap of measuring your value by how well things turn out. Spoiler alert: It’s a recipe for disaster, and it’s time to flip the script.
The Trap of Chasing Results
Let me paint you a picture: You’ve set a big goal, poured your heart and soul into it, and worked your butt off to make it happen. Then, for whatever reason, the results don’t quite match up with your expectations. What happens next? If you’re like most of us, you start questioning your abilities, doubting yourself, and maybe even feeling a little bit like a failure. Sound familiar?
I’ve been there more times than I care to admit. It’s like chasing your own tail—no matter how fast you spin, you never quite catch it. And the worst part? You end up feeling exhausted and defeated, all because you tied your sense of worth to an outcome you couldn’t fully control.
Why Results Are a Slippery Slope
Here’s the thing: Results are tricky little things. They’re influenced by so many factors—some within your control, and many that aren’t. If you’re constantly basing your value on whether or not you hit a specific mark, you’re setting yourself up for a rollercoaster of emotions. One day you’re on top of the world, and the next, you’re down in the dumps. It’s exhausting and, frankly, unsustainable.
Shifting the Focus to Intentions
So, what’s the alternative? It’s all about intentions, my friends. Instead of tying your worth to the outcome, tie it to your intentions and the effort you put in. When you focus on what you can control—your mindset, your actions, and your intentions—you’re setting yourself up for a much more fulfilling and steady ride.
Let’s break it down: If you set out to do something with the best intentions, whether it’s launching a new project, tackling a fitness goal, or just getting through a busy day with a positive attitude, you’ve already won. Why? Because you showed up with purpose, and that’s where your true power lies.
The Magic of Intentions
Now, don’t get me wrong—I’m all for setting goals and going after them with everything you’ve got. But the magic happens when you approach those goals with the right intentions. When you focus on being your best self, giving your best effort, and staying true to your values, you can walk away from any situation with your head held high, regardless of the outcome.
And guess what? When you’re not so obsessed with the results, you often find that things start to flow more naturally. You’re less stressed, more creative, and—here’s the kicker—more confident. Why? Because your confidence isn’t tied to something external; it’s rooted in your own integrity and self-worth.
My Own Journey with Intentions
I’ll be real with you: This shift in mindset didn’t happen overnight for me. I’m a recovering perfectionist, and letting go of my attachment to results has been a journey. But it’s been one of the most freeing and empowering changes I’ve made. These days, when I set out to do something, I remind myself that my worth isn’t on the line. Instead, I focus on bringing my best intentions to the table and letting the chips fall where they may.
And let me tell you, life gets a whole lot more fun when you’re not constantly worried about whether you’re “enough” based on your latest achievement or failure. You start to enjoy the process more, you’re kinder to yourself, and—big bonus—you start to notice that the people around you appreciate the real, authentic you, not just what you can achieve.
How You Can Start Tying Your Worth to Intentions
So, how do you start making this shift? Here’s what’s been working for me:
- Set Intentions Daily: Each morning, before diving into the day’s chaos, take a moment to set your intentions. What do you want to bring to the day? How do you want to show up, regardless of the outcome?
- Celebrate the Effort: At the end of the day, instead of just looking at what you did or didn’t accomplish, take a moment to appreciate the effort you put in. Did you stay true to your intentions? Even if your intention was to just rest and recover (mine from last Saturday!). That’s worth celebrating!
- Practice Self-Compassion: When things don’t go as planned (and let’s be real, sometimes they won’t), be gentle with yourself. Remind yourself that your worth isn’t tied to that one result.
- Surround Yourself with Positive Vibes: Hang out with people who lift you up and remind you that you’re awesome just as you are. It’s easier to focus on intentions when you’ve got a supportive crew cheering you on.
Wrapping It Up
At the end of the day, chasing results is a game you’ll never fully win. But when you start tying your worth to your intentions instead, you’re stepping into a whole new level of self-confidence and fulfillment. So let’s stop chasing our tails, ladies, and start embracing the power of intentions. Your worth isn’t up for debate, and it sure as heck isn’t tied to your latest win or loss. You’re amazing just for showing up and giving it your best shot. Let’s keep those intentions strong and let the results take care of themselves.
You’ve got this!
P.S. If you’re feeling like you need a reset to really embrace this intentions-over-results mindset, a retreat might be just what the doctor ordered. At a retreat, you get the chance to step away from the daily grind and really focus on yourself. You can take a deep breath, connect with like-minded women, and dive into activities that help you reconnect with your true intentions—without the pressure of results hanging over your head. Plus, with expert guidance and a supportive environment, you’ll leave feeling rejuvenated and ready to carry this mindset into your everyday life. It’s like hitting the refresh button for your soul. Trust me, it’s worth it!
